Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn 40’l\u0131 ya\u015flar\u0131nda olanlar bilirler, \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuzda her\u015feyin de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fini anne ve babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n s\u0131k s\u0131k duyarak b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck. Bana soracak olursan\u0131z bu de\u011fi\u015fim aile ve sosyal hayatta ya\u015fanmaya ba\u015fland\u0131. Neden diye soracak olursan\u0131z, \u00f6zellikle gen\u00e7 ku\u015fak \u00f6zellikle ili\u015fkiler konusunda anne babalar\u0131ndan h\u0131zlaca ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131larr. K\u0131z-erkek ili\u015fkilerinin daha kolay ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nemdi bu. \u00d6zellikle 2000 li y\u0131llarda, T\u00fcrkiye i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a radikal de\u011fi\u015fimler ya\u015fad\u0131k. \u00c7ocukken yaz\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131 Bodrum’a ge\u00e7irdi\u011fim i\u00e7in bu s\u00fcreci \u00e7ok h\u0131zl\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131k. Ya\u015fad\u0131k diyorum \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc annem babam bu s\u00fcreci daha h\u0131zl\u0131 ya\u015fad\u0131lar. Hala, annemin 15-20’li ya\u015flarda yapt\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z bir\u015feylerle onu nas\u0131l k\u0131zd\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131 anlat\u0131r. Etkilerinin halen devam etmesi \u00e7ok garip de\u011fil mi? Bu d\u00f6nemde annem-babamdaki k\u0131r\u0131lmalar b\u00fcy\u00fck olmu\u015f besbelli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
D\u00f6nemin geli\u015fen k\u0131sm\u0131 benim i\u00e7in pek bir e\u011flenceliydi. Bu d\u00f6nemleri ya\u015famama imkan sa\u011flad\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in sa\u011folsun babama her zaman \u015f\u00fckran duyuyorum. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z ortamlarda k\u0131zl\u0131 erkekli gruplar\u0131n i\u00e7inde b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fcm. Birlikte payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m an\u0131lar\u0131mla \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumu, gen\u00e7li\u011fimi doya doya ya\u015fad\u0131m. Ben erkek olarak bu s\u00fcreci daha rahat ge\u00e7irdim. Ancak ablam bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te daha bask\u0131c\u0131 bir tav\u0131r g\u00f6rd\u00fc annem ve babamdan. Bu tav\u0131r bizimkilere has de\u011fil, o d\u00f6nemde, ne kadar modern hayatlar ya\u015fasakta konu k\u0131z \u00e7ocu\u011fun olunca bask\u0131c\u0131 tav\u0131r pek de\u011fi\u015fmedi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
E\u015fim ve ablam\u0131n bu konuda ayr\u0131mc\u0131l\u0131klarla ilgili hakl\u0131 serzeni\u015flerini \u00e7ok duydum. Bu durum halen eskisi gibi devam ediyor mu bilmiyorum. Arkada\u015flar\u0131m\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla ili\u015fkilerinde bu kadar zorluk ya\u015f\u0131yorlar m\u0131 pek sanm\u0131yorum. Bu ya\u015ftaki \u00e7ocuklarda daha fazla bilgisayar vb. Muhabbetler oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in bizim kadar \u00e7alkant\u0131l\u0131 bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 zannetmiyorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Gelelim zurnan\u0131n zort dedi\u011fi yere. Bu haftaki podcastimizde E\u015fim Ye\u015fim ve Ben, kendi anne ve babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n bize g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi tav\u0131rlar\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan nedenleri tahmin edece\u011fiz. Her zaman ana teman\u0131n bizim g\u00fcvenli\u011fimiz, koruma i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcs\u00fc olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n fark\u0131nday\u0131z. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Ebebeynlerimizin bizce bu tav\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131nda yatan ger\u00e7ek sebeplerini 35+ Muhabbet b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcm\u00fczde, Kalbur\u00fcst\u00fc Muhabbetler Podcastimizde enine boyuna konu\u015faca\u011f\u0131z. Allah ne verdiyse \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sevgiler ve Sayg\u0131lar<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn 40’l\u0131 ya\u015flar\u0131nda olanlar bilirler, \u00e7ocuklu\u011fumuzda her\u015feyin de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fini anne ve babalar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n s\u0131k s\u0131k duyarak b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck. Bana soracak olursan\u0131z bu de\u011fi\u015fim aile ve sosyal hayatta ya\u015fanmaya ba\u015fland\u0131. Neden diye soracak olursan\u0131z, \u00f6zellikle gen\u00e7 ku\u015fak \u00f6zellikle ili\u015fkiler konusunda anne babalar\u0131ndan h\u0131zlaca ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131larr. K\u0131z-erkek ili\u015fkilerinin daha kolay ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir d\u00f6nemdi bu. \u00d6zellikle 2000 li y\u0131llarda, T\u00fcrkiye i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"episode_type":"","audio_file":"","cover_image":"","cover_image_id":"","duration":"","filesize":"","date_recorded":"","explicit":"","block":"","filesize_raw":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-570","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-35-yasam"],"yoast_head":"\n